Worksheet
The Boundary Door
A worksheet for turning resentment into a clear behavioral boundary.
What this tool does
The Boundary Door asks what behavior needs to change, what you will do, what you will not do, and what sentence keeps the door from becoming a debate.
Use “I am not available” and stop. It is a complete sentence.
Bad-week version
Use it when
- You feel resentful and cannot tell whether it is a boundary problem.
- You keep explaining without changing the access rules.
- You need the shortest true sentence.
How to use it
- Name the repeating pattern.
- Write what you will do.
- Write what you will not do.
- Name the consequence if the pattern continues.
- Practice the shortest sentence.
Worksheet version
Copy these prompts into a notebook, notes app, spreadsheet, or the nearest envelope that is already judging you.
Common traps
- Calling a wish a boundary.
- Using a consequence you will not keep.
- Letting guilt drive the car.
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